How mindfulness can help with your self-discovery journey, which leads to your purpose
Mindfulness is defined as the human ability to be aware of where you are and what you are doing. Some people define it by saying it is the practice of “living in the present.”
Seems like a straightforward definition, right? Yet some people struggle with finding a way to apply this to their journey of self-discovery, the end goal of which is to find your purpose.
Then there are some who are cautious because it seems “exotic,” and it’s never a good idea to ask people to do something that is against their faith.
For both of these concerns, it seems that a little clarification could lead to a lot of understanding, which would be a great benefit to anyone who finds themselves struggling to stay “in the moment.”
After all, if you want to improve yourself, what better way is there than to understand where you are in the here and now?
Mindfulness is NOT meditation or a religion.
When you tell people that mindfulness is about focusing solely on the present, it sounds like meditation, and meditation makes them think of monks in a temple in China somewhere.
If the person you are talking to is an extremely religious person, they will shut you down as soon as they get that vibe.
However, you can assure them mindfulness is NOT some new religion, nor is it even meditation. You don’t have to get into a lotus pose and hum the word “ohm.”
All you have to do is stop dwelling on the fact that you never had the courage to ask the cheerleader (or quarterback) to senior prom. That is all there is to mindfulness.
You can do that no matter what religion you are.
Stop regretting the past, stop stressing about the future
Dwelling on the past is a wasteful endeavor for one simple reason: it is GONE. There is nothing you can do about the mistakes you made in high school, so why let them consume you?
Also, dwelling on the past prevents you from focusing on the present, which means you won’t be able to look at how much you have grown/accomplished. This is a rather “glass half empty” way of thinking. “I’m no good now because I screwed up back then.”
As for worrying about the future, that is useless too because it is, as Shakespeare called it, an “undiscovered country.”
You are nervous about the outcome of a job interview. That is understandable, but no matter how long you dwell on it, you will never know the answer until you have the interview.
In other words, thinking ahead to the outcome will prevent you from preparing for it in the present.
By learning to stop worrying about what is past and not stressing about what hasn’t happened yet, we free our minds to focus on the present.
This is the only way you can move forward and discover who you truly are, what you are capable of, and what your purpose is.